Reconciling Sunday, May 17, 2009

“A Ministry of Reconciliation”

Reverend Michael D. Powell

Matthew 22:34-40

               

                                                                                                                

            The ideal of reconciliation is at the heart of our ministry here at Morningside.  We begin our worship by affirming that we are all God’s people and that Christ has called us to ministries of love, justice and reconciliation.  What the world needs is more examples of reconciliation incarnated, of people whose lives embody reconciliation and serve to inspire and empower others to live lives of reconciliation.        

 

            The human experience is, for the most part, one of feeling separate from both God and one another. When Jesus is asked what the most important commandment is he replies by reciting the ancient Jewish Shema: “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul, and with all your mind.  This is the first and great commandment.  A second is like it, you shall love your neighbor as yourself.” What Jesus is saying is that the human experience of alienation and the feeling of separateness from others is rooted in feeling distant from God. Who strives to remember God, to love God with all their heart and soul and mind and strength? 

 

            The tragic state of the world, the wars between peoples and the abuse of our God given creation, is rooted in the feeling of separation, of otherness.  But we are at a point in our evolutionary history when we cannot afford separation and alienation. We desperately need reconciliation if our planet and our global community are to survive.  True reconciliation with other people begins with loving God, and recognizing that none of us are really separate from God, nor are we separate from one another.  We are all God’s people.  We are One.  What the world needs is more people whose lives incarnate this realization of reconciliation. 

 

            Many of you know that I was on the Ecumenical Ministries of Oregon team that helped bring South African Archbishop Desmond Tutu to Portland on May 4th  for a  lecture entitled: “The Transformative Power of Reconciliation in Society.”  We had a debriefing meeting last Wednesday and, as you can well imagine, we were all giddy with the success of the event.  Everyone had a story.

 

            One of our team members met him at the airport, where a crowd had gathered.  She told of a young pregnant mother who shyly asked if the bishop could bless her unborn baby.  With one hand Tutu laid two fingers on the woman’s head, and with the other laid two fingers on her belly.  He prayed a blessing in his native Bantu and then, laughingly, said: “Your baby has been blessed in the language of heaven.”  Another of our team members brought her 23 year old daughter, who claims to be an atheist, to the lecture.  With tears in her eyes, she talked about how deeply touched her daughter had been.  I asked what it was that touched her and she said, “It was just the spirit of love that she experienced that night.” 

 

            Tutu’s life incarnates the gentle spirit of reconciliation. We received hundreds of emails in response to his visit.  We began by reading one from Archbishop himself, thanking us for the warmth of the hospitality he experienced during his visit. It was signed, “Arch.”  There were emails from Muslims, thanking us for the prominent place they had been invited to share in the World Music concert that preceded the lecture.

 

            I wrote down the exact words of another email:  “I confess that I had expected the bishop’s comments to be more philosophically or theologically based but, the more I thought about it, I realized that the simplicity of his message was the great appeal.  Reconciliation requires no profound preparation, simply the fullness of heart as exemplified by Christ.” 

 

            In fact, I learned a new word at the meeting.  One of our team members used the word “Neoteny” to describe Tutu.  Loosely defined, neoteny means an adult’s ability to be childlike. Tutu’s childlike glee and even mischievousness is disarming, and perhaps that’s another important ingredient in the ministry of reconciliation.

 

            Here’s a sampling of the profoundly simple teachings he shares on the art of reconciliation: (1)

 

“Differences are not intended to separate, to alienate.  We are different precisely in order to realize our need of one another.”

 

“It is unity we are talking about, not uniformity.  What is needed is to respect one another’s points of view and not to impute unworthy motives to one another or to seek to impugn the integrity of the other.  Our maturity will be judged by how well we are able to agree to disagree and yet continue to love one another and to cherish one another and seek the greater good of the other.”

 

“Forgiveness gives us the capacity to make a new start . . . And forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew . . . In the act of forgiveness we are declaring our faith in the future of a relationship and in the capacity of the wrongdoer to change.”

 

“Utter only the words of which we won’t be ashamed afterwards, which we won’t regret saying.  It is easy to discourage, it is far too easy, all too easy to criticize, to complain, to rebuke.  Let us try instead to be more quick to see even a small amount of good in a person and concentrate on that.  Let us be more quick to praise than to find fault.  Let us be more quick to thank others than to complain – ‘thank you’ and ‘please’ are small words, but they are oh, so powerful.”

 

“We should be generous in our judgments of others, for we can never really know all there is to know about another.”

 

                The Reconciling Movement in United Methodism seeks to welcome all into the fellowship of our church.  We recognize that it is the illusion of differences that separates us.  Some of us saw a powerful movie last week, “The Music Within,” about two disabled men whose lives embodied the ideal of reconciliation.  The fruits of their labors were manifested in the American Disabilities Act, and I highly recommend the film. Anni and I were personal friends with Art Honeyman, a paraplegic, and one of the most poignant lines comes at the end of the film, when he says that disabled persons are not so much ignored as they are rendered invisible.  Reconciliation begins with affirming the sacred humanity of another and acknowledging the unique gift and opportunity for growth that their presence in our lives offers us.  As Tutu says, we are different precisely in order to realize our need of one another.  As Jesus says, Love God and love one another.  They are the same thing.  That is reconciliation.  On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets. 

 

            And, finally, I want to close by briefly sharing the story of two women whose ministry of reconciliation was a powerful turning point in my, and in many people’s lives.  These two women loved God, they loved their church, and they loved one another.  Roxie was a tall, thin, sophisticated introvert who was on the Board of Trustees.  Her partner, Michelle, was short, extroverted and playful, the perfect chair for the Outreach and Evangelism team.  The first time I met Michelle she gave me a big hug and said, “Hi, I’m your token lesbian.”  We quickly became friends.  We were new in town.  Our daughter, Chalice, was just entering Jr. Hi, a difficult period of transition, and Michelle befriended her as well.

 

            Both Roxy and Michelle had been politically active, speaking out against the discriminatory Oregon Citizens Alliance ballot initiatives. They were well known in our community, much loved in our church.  Their lives were a witness to the transformative power of reconciliation. The first week in November of ’95, Michelle and I served the sacrament of Holy Communion together.  The last week in November Roxy and I were in a small group together, sitting knee to knee, sharing intimately before closing with prayer.  A week later, on December 4th, 1995, they were brutally murdered in a hate crime.  When caught, the killer jokingly referred to them as “lesbo grandmas.” 

 

            I was quoted in the paper, saying that they were wonderful Christian women, and I received numerous replies.  Some of it was hate mail, but the overwhelming response was affirmative, offering prayers of condolence and thanking our church for affirming the lives of these two wonderful women.  The gentle, loving witness of their lives transformed the lives of many others.

 

            I thank God for Roxy and Michelle, for Art Honeyman, and for Desmond Tutu.  Each of them, in their own unique way, has incarnated the ideal of reconciliation and brought us a little closer to the recognition that we are all God’s people, called by Christ to ministries of love, justice and reconciliation.  Thanks be to God.  Amen.

 

 

(1) From Believe: The Words and Wisdom of Desmond Tutu